In our society, women are taught that it’s not okay to say no. Which might partially explain why when we do say it, we are very often ignored.
“No” means just that.
“None of your business” means just that.
I don’t expect to be asked to justify my reasons for saying so, nor do I expect to be ‘pushed’ or guilt tripped into trying to get me to say yes.
Life is purposeless. Don’t be shocked. The whole idea of purpose is wrong — it comes out of greed. Life is a sheer joy, a playfulness, a fun, a laughter, to no purpose at all. Life is its own end, it has no other end. The moment you understand it you have understood what meditation is all about. It is living your life joyously, playfully, totally, and with no purpose at the end, with no purpose in view, no purpose there at all. Just like small children playing on the sea beach, collecting seashells and coloured stones.
psychotherapy:
Excerpt (via Psychology Today):
“Not to show vulnerability is typically viewed as a strength, a “demonstration” of character. But in reality the major motives in hiding our emotions are (as I’ve already indicated) fear-based. We’re just afraid to look weak or susceptible to others. Paradoxically, though, unashamedly disclosing our vulnerability can actually be a deliberate personal statement of both sensitivity and—yes—courage.”
missworded:
Nice Man - makes dinner because he’s an adult and the adults in the household do chores because food is necessary for not dying.
“Nice Guy” - makes dinner because he wants you to fuck him.
Nice Man - puts you in bed after you’ve had too much to drink because people who care about one another…
There is a vitality, a life force, a quickening that is translated through you into action, and there is only one of you in all time, this expression is unique, and if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium; and be lost. The world will not have it. It is not your business to determine how good it is, not how it compares with other expression. It is your business to keep it yours clearly and directly, to keep the channel open. You do not even have to believe in yourself or your work. You have to keep open and aware directly to the urges that motivate you. Keep the channel open. No artist is pleased. There is no satisfaction whatever at any time. There is only a queer, divine dissatisfaction, a blessed unrest that keeps us marching and makes us more alive than the others.” - Martha Graham
Healing grief does not mean making the grief disappear, but rather making peace with it, incorporating it into one’s own life and expression.
